When your mother got cancer I felt anger and resentment toward Heavenly Father. After all he could let her stay if he wanted to. When Suzanne became aware of my feelings she said, "It doesn't make any sense to get mad at the person who is going to solve our problem in the end," meaning that we will be separated for a short time and then be back together for eternity. Then I began to thank him for every moment I had with my sweetheart.
There are really only two ways to get to know your mother. The first is to talk to people that knew her, read about her, look at her pictures, and see her videos. I have more stuff if you want. The second is harder: get to know what she loved which was Jesus Christ. She read the scriptures daily and really understood them. She would often say things like, "Wow Jacob really had a difficult time with his sons." Her scriptures were well marked, well worn and well read. Loving the things she loved and living so she is proud of you are the best ways to get close to the woman who cherished you and wanted to raise you.
E- now has a whole new view of parenthood. H- was sick last Sunday so he and I wrestled with the girls in church. Mid way through church he leaned over over to me and said, "I'd hate to raise these girls as a single adult." I said, "Try it with 6." E- has great empathy for me because he is having some of the same experiences I have had.
The same goes with your mother. Get to know her and the things she loved. You can do it. Dad
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I love hearing and learning about Suzanne. I want E and I to be able to share stories about her to our kids. Thankfully you have willingly given us mounds of information and insight on who she was. I am always eager to learn more about her.
H- in many ways your are similar. K
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